I have had morning sickness for the first 14 weeks with each pregnancy. The first two were the absolute worst. Forget about just feeling tired. How about feeling as though you have a stomach bug constantly with NO relief and not being able to vomit even if you wanted to. I’m talking all day, all night nausea along with dry heeving daily. I can remember with my 2nd pregnancy I had a really dumb thought to try my mother-in-law’s salad at dinner. She adds so many things to it, it is so so good. But during the first 3-4 months I pretty much can only eat carbs. Anyway, it looked good so I actually gave it a try. Within 30 minutes I was in her bathroom on the floor in a ball. I thought my insides were going to literally burst. I can take a lot of pain and I was seconds from having my husband bring me to this nearest ER. Thankfully I threw up and went to the bathroom and everything settled down.
I do tend to only gain 20lbs or a little more. But that is by choice. I eat healthy to begin with and contiue to do so while pregnant. I do allow myself to splurge a little more though. Just not to the extreme. What you don’t know is that I am very weight conscious and am terrified that I won’t be able to loose the extra weight afterwards. And I don’t have any desire to have to worry about that. And if that were to happen, I could have a downward spiral to a past eatting disorder.
I do have aches and pains. I have heartburn, my back hurts, I do have my hormonal moments, and I by 6 to 7 months I have a permanent foot lodged in my ribcage. I also get braxton hicks contractions everyday starting at 5 to 6 months and am out of breath after walking up one flight of stairs. If you know me well, you might now these things. Maybe not. It’s just in my opionion it’s all so incredibly worth it in the end. Don’t get me wrong by the time 9 months come along, I also can’t wait for delivery day.
I too have had a miscarriage. It’s a very hard experience to go through. I was lucky in that I had already had a child and knew it was possible. I can remember the fear and nervousness when I got pregnant afterward. Wondering everytime I went to the bathroom, if I would see blood. But then I made a choice to enjoy things in the moment. Because in the end you can do everything right and it is still out of your hands.
I’m not saying pregnancy is easy or that it is the same for every women. We all know it’s not. And I am by no means saying you don’t have the right to complain a little. But I do believe you can make the choice on how you are going to deal with pregnancy. You can focus on the little miracle you have created or you can dwell on all the uncomfortable not so good things. It’s a CHOICE!!! Pregnancy and childbirth are such an amazing experience and a true miracle. Regardless of how it happens. I am thankful I have had uncomplicated pregnancies and 3 healthy children in the end.
Please feel free to tell me your thoughts!!!