You know you’re going to be stuck at home in the beginning, especially if your baby is born in the winter like three of mine were. You know you are going to be feeding what seems like constantly all day long. Even more so if your breastfeeding. You think you are prepared for a being sleep deprived. You realize you are not going to have all the answers. In the end motherhood still isn’t at all what you prepared for.
Giving birth is one of the most amazing experiences in the world. Mind you, your birth may not always go as you had planned. Regardless, seeing your baby for the first time may very well be one of your best moments of your life. I don’t think anyone is prepared for giving birth or especially for having a child. So many people tell you that while you are pregnant. You just can’t understand until you have your own child and learn it firsthand. Even though you may not be as prepared as you thought you were, you can get through with the help of your significant other, family, and friends. You know the saying “It takes a village to raise a family.” Motherhood isn’t easy but the benefits are twofold.
A Few Things I have learned…
- You just have to take it day by day.
You will have your good days and bad days. You won’t have all the answers. You may wonder what the heck you got yourself into. Breathe! Newborns are precious but are alot of work. The pieces to the puzzle with come together evenually but it takes time. If you breastfeed, once you both have adjusted and you have a good milk supply, try to pump also. I know people have different opinions on this but it allows you to get a break and not be the only one feeding the baby.
- Involve your husband/significant other without being overbearing
They don’t understand what your going through and they certainly can’t breastfeed, if that’s your choice. But they can change diapers, get the baby dressed, and have their snuggle time. Most importantly, bite your tongue, sit back, and let them figure things out for themselves. They may not do it your way but as long as the baby is safe, they will be okay.
- Ask for help if you need it.
That was hard for me to do initially. You aren’t lacking in the motherhood/housekeeping department just because you need a little help.
- At the opposite end of the spectrum…If to many people are trying to help don’t be afraid to ask them to back off.
Having a baby, whether it’s your first of fourth, can be overwhelming. You do need some time to adjust to your new lifestyle. Especially, when it come to an overbearing mother or mother-in-law!!! They mean well but sometimes you need to figure some things out on your own.
- Talk about how you are feeling with other mothers
Many mothers can feel alone. Thinking they are the only one who feels overwhelmed, exhausted, and sometimes frustrated. Your hormones are all over the place. One minute your happy, another minute your sad…aka The Baby Blues. Talking things through with another mother who has been there can help immensely. If you having more severe feelings it could be Postpartum Depression. Having a strong support system is so very important.