I have known my husband since I was 13 and we have been pretty much together even since. (So that would be 17 years!) We got married Jan. 03 and right away knew having children was just the next step.
I always knew I wanted children, that was just a given. But what I didn’t know was the journey you go on, once that part of your begins.
It took us a while to get pregnant. I had been on the pill for years and my cycles were a mess. We started in Jan. 03 and by Jan. 04 we still weren’t preggo. Boy oh boy, does that put a lot of stress on you as a person and on your marriage. So when people say “Just relax and have fun.” Well, I really don’t think they have been there. It can very easily become very frustrating and more of a chore you don’t feel like doing.
We turned to clomid in Jan. o4 and after 2 cycles we were pregnant with our 1st baby. And if you can believe it, I got pregnant pretty much the very same day my father-in-laws passed away unexpectedly. If that doesn’t clearly state “As one life ends, a new one begins.” CRAZY!!! And it gets even more crazy. We had a beautiful baby boy in Dec. 04. We named him after my husband, but more so after my father-in-law. Our son reminds me of him and has his blue eyes. You wouldn’t think that was abnormal except for the fact that my husband and I have dark brown eyes!!
His first year was a roller coaster ride. Well, maybe more like the first 6 months for sure. He had a milk allergy and reflux. That could be another story in itself. The whole “First Time Mom, you apparently don’t know anything” sterotype. ARGGGG!!!! (Mom’s do usually know best my the way.) And just falling into the role of mom and baby.
We decided to try for #2 before our 1st son was one, seeing all the trouble we had getting preggo the first time. Thankfully it only took us 2 months but I then I had a early miscarriage. That was hard. I can remember the drastic change in emotion from being so happy and excited, to being so disappointed and sad. We did start trying the very next month. I can remember one of the bigger fights my husband and I got in. Once again my cycles were off but I had figured out physical signs that it was time to try. My husband was going away and I thought it was time to “TRY.” Well, I initially thought it was the week before so he was like “what the heck.” Well he was all excited about going on his trip with the guys and he just couldn’t get in the mood. UMMMM, I think that has never happened!!! I was so so angry and hurt. It shows how stressful trying to get pregnant can be. In the end, I did get pregnant that month. But them it was 3 months of worrying whether I might sit on the toilet to pee and then see blood. Everything turned out fine and in Nov. 06 we had our 2nd little baby boy. He had reflux and milk allergy but was knew what to expect and dealt with it easier and faster.
That’s not the end of it. SURPRISE!!!!! We got a surprise in Jan. 08, baby #3!!! I made a mistake with my pill and figured no big deal. I have never gotten pregnant the first time when we are actually trying so messing up wouldn’t be a big deal. Obviously I was wrong. Baby boy #3 came into the world in Aug. 08.
I love my 3 boys and couldn’t imagine not having them in my life. But what a journey it has been!
Now, 6 1/2 years later we have 3 little boys, well monsters, under the age of 4 1/2.