Well, I do have to say that there is quite a bit of controversy in regard whether or not you should “Let your child cry it out.” First, I will say that everyone is entitled to their own opinion. But I totally agree with letting a child cry it out.
One of the best things I have done for my children and myself, is let them cry themselves to sleep. Don’t get me wrong, I hated every minute of it. It was so hard to listen to them cry.
I may seem harsh but it isn’t. My pediatrician is a big supporter of allowing your child to get themselves to sleep versus holding or rocking your them until they fall asleep. I don’t mean as a newborn by any means. I couldn’t do it completely with my first son until he was eleven months. (Mainly because of a health issue and I have to admit I was a bit skeptical.) I did put him down very drowsy but not totally asleep. In the end I did do it entirely at eleven months. And I widh I would have dome it sooner. It took him the longest to figure it out.
I know some people do what is called the Ferber Method by going in every certain about of minutes and then slowly decreasing the time. In a way, for reassurance. Well, that didn’t work for me. My first two boys would scream more after I went in and then left again. Finally with my third I didn’t even try to go in.
I had to do it cold turkey. Not going in at all, unless I thought something was wrong. The first night, I think the crying went on for about an hour. The second night was forty-five minutes or less. And the third maybe thirty minutes.
Eventually, it was maybe fifteen minutes of so. But after a week of two, it was nothing or just a few minutes. Occasionally it went on longer after that. I have to admit I felt like the worst mother in the world with my first son. I cried and could barely do it. I felt so guilty and anxious. I hung in there and I am so glad I did. I actually started at four months with my second son. I then had to do it again completely at six months. That is actually when I got rid of his binky too. It was the best thing I ever did. I did it at 4-5 months with my third and they all are amazing sleepers.
Dont be surprised if they throw up from crying so much. Please don’t think I took that lightly. One of mine did and I felt absolutely horrible. Thankfully it only happen once. I just stopped for that night and tried again the next night.
I have always been very consistent with a routine. I would bring them in the room, turned the lights off, and sing a few songs. I would always wait until I got a big yawn out of them and knew they were settled and ready to go down. I used and still use a humidifier/fan in there room for noise.
For my sanity, I would then go downstairs and turn on the overhead fan on the stove so I didnt hear them crying. I would just look at the monitor to see if the lights were still lighting up. If they weren’t, that’s when I would turn the fan off to listen. After they stopped crying for awhile I would go check in on them.
I have never had trouble getting them to sleep and I swear that’s why. So to any mother who is thinking of it but is skeptical, do it. It isn’t easy at first and you have to stay strong and not give in. Otherwise you will confuse them. I’m not saying you have to go cold turkey like I did. You can try the other way with slowly leaving them for longer periods. Whatever works for you and your child. Truthfully, I think the earlier the better. If you wait until they are toddlers it will be much more difficult. Trust me you won’t regret it.